So walking down the street on-campus, and passing by a group of 3 girls chatting away, I overhear the following:

Only children live with a certain stereotype of being selfish, immature, spoiled, overprotected, demanding, etc. However, how does all this pan out when they get into relationships? One could say that it all depends on who they date. Going on the assumption that older siblings have been brought up to take care of others, and that younger siblings/only children grow up being accustomed to being taken care of,

There are a couple setups:

1. An only child could date an only child - there would be a lot of work at hand here, since both individuals aren't necessarily used to taking care of others. If one of them adapts to the missing role, then it could potentially work out. If both of them continue to expect to be taken care of, but no one steps up, then there could be trouble. It's a good time for personal development.

2. An only child could date someone who's the youngest sibling - again, we have a situation very similar to scenario #1. Both are used to being the baby, so unless they both grow up a little, you could have two unhappy people on your hands.

3. An only child could date someone who's an oldest sibling- this situation has its own unique hurdles. The only child can continue to stay in his/her role of being taken care of since the older sibling can continue being the older sibling. However, since this is a relationship and not a siblinghood, if the older sibling expected the only child to take care of him/her in return, he could have some disappointments coming.

4. An only child could date someone who's in the middle - this maybe one of the best setups, since the middle child has some flexibility in his/her idenity and role in relationships.

However, what it all boils down to, is what you are looking for. If a guy wants a girl who he wants to take care of and baby around, maybe he should find an only child or youngest sibling. If a guy wants a girl who's mature and can handle her own, maybe an older sibling would be a good bet.

These scenarios and situations are definitely not set in stone. There are exceptions--many of them possibly if one looks for them. Just keep in mind your prospective date's sibling background the next time you're trying to figure out "why the heck does he/she act this way??" You MIGHT get your answer.

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I could NOT pass this up when I came across it: everyone should be able to benefit from such groundbreaking research!

Quote:

[Removing her clothes
With consent	12 Calories
Without consent	187 Calories
Opening her bra
With both hands	8 Calories
With one hand	12 Calories
With your teeth	85 Calories
Putting on a condom
With an erection	6 Calories
Without an erection	315 Calories
Preliminaries
Trying to find the clitoris	8 Calories
Trying to find the G-Spot	92 Calories
Positions
Missionary	12 Calories
69 lying down	78 Calories
69 standing up	112 Calories
Wheelbarrow	216 Calories
Doggy Style	326 Calories
Italian Chandelier	912 Calories
Orgasm
Real	112 Calories
False	315 Calories
Post Orgasm
Lying in bed hugging	18 Calories
Getting up immediately	36 Calories
Explaining why you got out of bed immediately	816 Calories
Getting a second erection
If you are: 20-29 years old	36 Calories
30-39 years	80 Calories
40-49 years	124 Calories
50-59 years	972 Calories
60-69 years	2916 Calories
70 and over	Death
Dressing afterwards
Calmly	32 Calories
In a hurry	98 Calories
With her father knocking at the door	1218 Calories
With your wife knocking at the door	3521 Calories]

Although I'll have to say that if you're going to have sex with the main goal of burning calories, you are asking for trouble my friend.


*For the dense few out there, any caloric estimation is purely speculative for the purpose of getting a few laughs I'm sure. Don't go including infidelity in your daily calorie calculations please.


[chart taken from http://lewismoten.blogspot.com]

I overhear groups of guys toss around the phrase "Dude. Handle your woman!" all too often, and usually I'm left thinking to myself, "What on Earth does that even mean?"

Well I had to do some heavy duty research and managed to come up with a rough list of interpretations to that age-old frat-boyish remark:

10 things "Handle Your Woman!" could be mean:
1. "Shut her up!"
2. "Keep her in line!"
3. "Smack a b**ch!"
4. "She's being a b**ch!"
5. "She should be cooking and cleaning"
6. "Be a man!"
7. "You are a p**sy"
8. "Put her in her place!"
9. "I'm secretly wishing she'd handle me."
10. "We're just trying to mess with you but have no idea what that phrase means ourselves."

Now I won't get into the intricate details of whether bisexuality is just a phase, an endpoint, an excuse to get double the sex of a homo or hetero, etc. That's for others to discuss and debate. I'm just going to say that I think, yes, one CAN make a relationship work with a bisexual. In my opinion though, it will be much harder than making a relationship work with someone who's interested in just one sex.

Why?

Because a bisexual will be checking out twice as many people as someone straight/homo: boys AND girls will be getting his/her attention.

Not to mention you have to mentally/emotionally prepare yourself to deal with potential cultural/social judgementalism.

BUT. If the bisexual boyfriend/girlfriend is truly loyal only to you, then I don't see why the relationship can't work out. Straight men check out girls and can be loyal. Straight women check out men and can be loyal. There will be twice the temptation, but yes, bisexuals can check out both men and woman and be just as loyal. And if that's true, and both people involved are emotionally mature enough to handle the situation, then it's anyone's game. Just prepare yourself a bit before diving into one.

*Discussion sparked by http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/14201
[image taken from http://glbtworld.googlepages.com/]

Why is it that you always see couples on TV where the girl is hotter/fitter than the guy, but rarely see any where it's the other way around? King of Queens, George Lopez, Simpsons, Family Guy just to name a few. I mean come on, how did Peter EVER get with a girl like Lois?

Is it because fat guys are funny, but fat girls aren't? And that a fat couple all together would equal no ratings? Or is it because a hot guy would never realistically settle for a fat girl, while hot girls can definitely look beyond the superficial and dig deep enough (sometimes really deep) to find that special guy? Oh oh! maybe The Simpsons just paved the way with their brilliant formula of Stupid Fat Guy + Domestic Slim Wife = good old TV sitcom comedy?

As for the answer, I have no idea. But it'll probably be a combination of everything I've listed above and then some. Either way, I still find the whole setup is pretty ridiculous (and admittedly, yes: very hilarious.)

[image taken from http://animatedtv.about.com]

Now I'm not saying that if you avoid all of these these points that your date will be a huge success, but I CAN guarantee that your prospects at pursuing anything further will be curtailed if you go ahead and pull any of these bonehead moves:

On a first date, DON'T:

1. Take a call or a text during the date. It shows that he/she obviously isn't your top priority.
Possible Exceptions: Important callers? if possible, answer quickly, ask if you can call them back later, and apologize for the interruption.

2. Check out other people during the date. Did I even have to tell you that?

3. Talk about controversial topics (politics, money, religion are the big 3 that come to mind). You want to DATE them. Not DEBATE them.

4. Air out all your old laundry. Don't freak 'em out with dramatic childhood traumas. You can save that for after he/she judges that you're not a complete creeper. (And even then, give it to them in small doses please.)

(For the Guys)
5. Try something drastically new. Now I say drastically because I don't mean "I shouldn't try out that new Thai place down the street?" No. by all means go for it. But I do mean DON'T do something so completely out of your comfort zone that you could look like a nervous wreck (a definite turn-off), or could potentially embarrass yourself (not the cute kind of embarrass by the way.) Instead, take your date somewhere to do something they've never done before, but that you feel quite confident. That way you can ensure that you're in the best position to impress.


There are so many potential blunders out there for girls AND guys alike, that the Dating Don'ts will certainly come again. Stay tuned!

[image taken from http://awkwardfirstdates.com]

This JUST IN:

"Researchers have found that the bigger the group of potential mates to choose from the more likely individuals are to make a decision based on looks and sex appeal alone.

This is because their mind blanks at the choice and they revert to basic instincts, scientists believe."

Basically, don't speed date if you're looking for long-term. On the other hand, DO speed date if you want a hot short-term fling--it's going to end up that way anyways. But then again, you knew that going into it didn't you?

Oh, and I guess for all those guys that have been told "not if you were the last man on Earth!" the girls might be lying and not even realizing it. They'd definitely lax up their criteria if there was just ONE guy left.


But hey! If that doesn't work they can always even the playing field a little by charming her with laughter.

[image taken from provospeeddating.com]

Some people really...REALLY..aren't meant for relationships (like this guy) but at least they are aware of it:

"...prob was the way i was brought up and the shit i've witnessed through my teen years, i've heard things about alot of shady people cheating on each other, like my older brother tells me, he knows chicks with boyfriends and husbands that he done ran through, i just look with a surprised look on my face, everybody has some one in their family that has a S/O but does their thing on the side without letting that S/O know whats the deal. i can't see me being with a chick and she's out ****g with some other nigga, i might catch a case and get locked up, i know i will, there aint a doubt in my mind."

"mean relationships are cool for some, im not knocking it, but how do you really know your partner aint knocking somebody else's socks off, you always talk about them and how perfect they are, but you don't know they are running up in someone else, maybe i have trust issues, i dont know..."

So instead of trying, he's just going to sleep around and take the easy way out. Can someone say... "illegitimate children"?


Sadly though, this person is representative of a much larger group of people who awkwardly, seem to hang around the "For the Grown and sexy" section of the forum.



[image taken from http://mrsgrapevine.com]

(Sorry for being MIA these couple of days: been way too caught up in the general election)

Sidenote: "woo! Obama!"

*Ahem* moving on now:



Today's topic deals with wearing jewelery from an ex. Usually it's fine right? I mean it's a nice piece of bling that you shouldn't just throw away...that'd be a waste!

Ok, granted--keep it. BUT don't wear it around the new boyfriend.


Other gifts are alright, but jewelry are special tokens that carry a lot of meaning--and wearing them in a brand spakin new relationship is just bringing some bad mojo into the scene whether your new man knows it or not.

For girls that consciously realize they're still wearing the stuff and still do it? I just have to say either A. You're way too superficial and can't get over the jewlery(*cough* GOLD DIGGER *cough*), or B. you can't get over your ex.

Either way, get real.