Hi Everyone!

I Just wanted to say Happy Halloween! Hope you girls get to dress up as scandalously as your hearts desire, and hope that the guys have a great time gawking!

Be safe and have fun!

Ladies and Gentlemen, I welcome you to...the Sex Map (see above). I found this little oddity when stumbling around on the Net yesterday. What is it exactly? Someone who had a lot of time on their hands basically put together a geographical representation of the many "fixations..." people have. Some people will be looking at this and saying "OMG WHAT IS THAT? *googles it* OMG PEOPLE DO THIS??" and some will be saying "yup. sounds about right."
Either way, check it out--broaden your knowledge base and learn some new things. Chances are one of your particular fancies are charted (don't lie - we all have some).


Just goes to show that ridiculove can lead to some equally ridiculous bedroom antics.




P.S. - As for people residing north of "The Impassable Reaches," I just have to say...

Dude that's gross.

When the Halloween industry goes TOO FAR.:

I hope to God I don't see any couples wearing THIS GETUP come this Friday.
(Don't click if you're one of those "I want to keep my life rated-PG thank you ladeeda" people though. Boo on you.)


Whatever happened to good old fashioned "D*ck in a box"?

Looking at the "Family & Relationships" section of answers.yahoo.com, you're going to come across tons of "Do you think she's pretty?" "Do you think he's hot?" "Do you think she's good looking?" and I do not know why these people bother asking questions like that.

Besides the obvious point that for the most part, NO, these people are NOT attractive (if they were, they probably wouldn't be asking) why should they CARE what other people think anyways? Does our opinion influence whether they crush on a particular girl or guy? And of all people to ask, you ask an anonymous internet community. Why not ask your friends first?

You're probably liking these people for all the wrong reasons, and there are some serious issues you need to deal with before you really get into a relationship. Good luck.

This just goes to show that just because you and your significant other "got things down," doesn't meant that outside forces can't come in and f* things up. 

Yup! You heard it! Is your girlfriend poor? Dump her! At least that's what #6 on the Askmen.com "Top 10 signs you're too good for her"says.

"No. 6 She can't pay for anything

When it comes time to pick up the check for a dinner, a movie or just about anything else the two of you are undertaking she is nowhere to be found. There are two types of women for whom this is a problem: The first is just oblivious to the fact that she should actually pitch into the relationship. The second is just without the ability and just doesn't seem to have any income. Life's too short to waste time on either of them."

Before you dump her for option 1 (she's a gold digger), make sure you leave some hints, and if anything, COMMUNICATE. If she's still like "pay for me," drop her.

For option 2 (she can't afford to pay), then COMPROMISE--stay home and cook for a date, or just rent a movie. Some of the best dates can be free or low-cost dates.

Either way, way to go Askmen.com--I hope your other tips aren't as A-hole-ish.

[image via askmen.com]

Love is...Messed up. LOL.

For the guys out there:
1. You can interlace your fingers,
2. You can have her place her palm on yours, and grasp it,
3. You can cross hang your pinkies off each other...


But you DON'T go around holding her wrist. OK?! That is just plain AWKWARD. Looks like you wanted a leash but you couldn't get one or something, or that you found yourself a new she-slave. I mean wow. Choose from options 1-3. Any one of them is fine. Just stop it now.

And for girls being led around by the wrist. Wth? Speak up.

Ok so last night I'm coming home from the gym, and I see this guy totally chewing this girl out on the street yelling "...THIS IS A RELATIONSHIP OK?! YOU NEED TO GET THE F*** OUT!" and other incomprehensibles. Whatever they're yelling about is their own business, but it doesn't seem very settling that the girl was huddled up in a corner just kind of taking it and the guy was dressed up like some ghetto hood. Whatever the case, it's not my business. It IS my business however, that he doesn't have the decency to take his "wife-beater" tendencies soemwhere private. One for the civic deceny (which I'm assuming he lacks) of not disturbing the peace, but more importantly, for two, for having the common decency and respect (which again, I'm assuming he also lacks) that dictates you don't just yell at your girlfriend (or ho who knows), in public like that. Come on now.

It's a long post for the first one on this site, but it's a very well important one:




I am here to say that after much thought and careful observation, I've come to the conclusion that guys and girls just CAN'T be best friends--well...indefinitely anyways (no worries you can still be "just friends" but there are still dangers there we'll discuss some other time). As a temporary setup, it's great: you have someone whom you trust, someone to harmlessly flirt around with, and someone to just go out with. However, it's doomed to fail eventually (and who knows this "eventually" term might be like 30 years after they met). The trigger? Either one of two things: either the two will somehow be unable to ignore the sexual tension that's been building and have a go at a hopefully successful relationship, or one of the two will find a successful relationship with a third person. The first option is up in the air, since whether or not they make it is all up to them (and hopefully they don't totally screw it up), and since the "best friends" status has been terminated anyways (and no B.S. saying "oh but the best relationships are when the two people are still like best friends!" Too bad. The boyfriend-girlfriend dynamic benefits from the pre-existing friendship, but takes precedence over it).
So let me explain the second option and why everything gets messed up when you introduce a third person (and this is assuming you want a successful relationship outside of the friendship. If not, great! You two can go ahead and date around with other people and enjoy a string of unhealthy, messy relationships and breakups with the two of you comforting each other and picking up each others' pieces). It's simply the fact that this newcomer wouldn't be very happy sharing you with someone of the same sex. I mean no guy is completely 100% ok with his girlfriend hanging out with some other guy, who has known her longer, and better and the same goes for a girlfriend not wanting her man hanging out with some girl so much. They will definitely try to play it off that in fact they secure enough to share, but come on, really? There will always be some basal level of insecurity nawing at them from the inside which will be bad for the relationship anyways. I mean you definitely can try to hang on to your best-friendness and the new relationship, but you are going to have to give some up of either one or the other: you can't have your cake and eat it too. Either you spend less time with your bestie and more time with the significant other, or not (I'll warn you that the second option forebodes a breakup though). It all comes down to the notion that a relationship takes time, trust, "clicking with each other" and a whole lot of work. If you're doing all that with someone else like your best friend, you're going to lose your new girlfriend/boyfriend, and I should refer you to Option 1 since it seems like you're on your way there anyways.
The basic reason me saying so outright that you can't be best friends with someone of the opposite sex for long is just a pre-emptive way of preventing some huge problem down the road for your relationships. I am all for option 1 and the best friends getting with each other (most of the times I feel like they do make the best pair, and it tears me up when I see the second option of them splitting up for new relationships is chosen. What if your best friend isn't really attractive to you? Well sorry about that, guess you're probably on your way to option 2. Either that or you get a hotter best friend.


Some exceptions and notes:
1. For those "I have a gay best friend" setups, I can only say that it CAN work out and they CAN have other relationships, but the only danger there is that the two HAVE to manage their time very well and not spend too much time with each other that the relationships are barely hanging on, but not spend too little time with each other that their friendship is in danger (although if they were best friends, they could probably spare some time away and come back from a time of growing their new relationships just as strong)
2. For those "I have a crush on my best friend but he/she has no idea/interest." You are screwed. You want option 1 but you're probably gonna get option 2. Either way you are going to be unhappy unless you A) stop crushing (and actually make peace with yourself) or B) upgrade yourself(don't change your personality or anything, but girls get a new haircut and guys get a new pair of jeans or something) and get him/her to see you in some new light.
3. If you try Option 1, get together and it doesn't work out, depending on how the breakup went down, you two can still best friends, but again, until one of you goes for Option 2 down the line. If one of you has trouble moving on? Well that's another post for another day.


Life's unfair, and life is tough. Don't put yourself in positions where you voluntarily make it even crappier than it is.

Fun times ahead.