So walking down the street on-campus, and passing by a group of 3 girls chatting away, I overhear the following:

Only children live with a certain stereotype of being selfish, immature, spoiled, overprotected, demanding, etc. However, how does all this pan out when they get into relationships? One could say that it all depends on who they date. Going on the assumption that older siblings have been brought up to take care of others, and that younger siblings/only children grow up being accustomed to being taken care of,

There are a couple setups:

1. An only child could date an only child - there would be a lot of work at hand here, since both individuals aren't necessarily used to taking care of others. If one of them adapts to the missing role, then it could potentially work out. If both of them continue to expect to be taken care of, but no one steps up, then there could be trouble. It's a good time for personal development.

2. An only child could date someone who's the youngest sibling - again, we have a situation very similar to scenario #1. Both are used to being the baby, so unless they both grow up a little, you could have two unhappy people on your hands.

3. An only child could date someone who's an oldest sibling- this situation has its own unique hurdles. The only child can continue to stay in his/her role of being taken care of since the older sibling can continue being the older sibling. However, since this is a relationship and not a siblinghood, if the older sibling expected the only child to take care of him/her in return, he could have some disappointments coming.

4. An only child could date someone who's in the middle - this maybe one of the best setups, since the middle child has some flexibility in his/her idenity and role in relationships.

However, what it all boils down to, is what you are looking for. If a guy wants a girl who he wants to take care of and baby around, maybe he should find an only child or youngest sibling. If a guy wants a girl who's mature and can handle her own, maybe an older sibling would be a good bet.

These scenarios and situations are definitely not set in stone. There are exceptions--many of them possibly if one looks for them. Just keep in mind your prospective date's sibling background the next time you're trying to figure out "why the heck does he/she act this way??" You MIGHT get your answer.

[image taken from http://dailymail.co.uk]

I could NOT pass this up when I came across it: everyone should be able to benefit from such groundbreaking research!

Quote:

[Removing her clothes
With consent	12 Calories
Without consent	187 Calories
Opening her bra
With both hands	8 Calories
With one hand	12 Calories
With your teeth	85 Calories
Putting on a condom
With an erection	6 Calories
Without an erection	315 Calories
Preliminaries
Trying to find the clitoris	8 Calories
Trying to find the G-Spot	92 Calories
Positions
Missionary	12 Calories
69 lying down	78 Calories
69 standing up	112 Calories
Wheelbarrow	216 Calories
Doggy Style	326 Calories
Italian Chandelier	912 Calories
Orgasm
Real	112 Calories
False	315 Calories
Post Orgasm
Lying in bed hugging	18 Calories
Getting up immediately	36 Calories
Explaining why you got out of bed immediately	816 Calories
Getting a second erection
If you are: 20-29 years old	36 Calories
30-39 years	80 Calories
40-49 years	124 Calories
50-59 years	972 Calories
60-69 years	2916 Calories
70 and over	Death
Dressing afterwards
Calmly	32 Calories
In a hurry	98 Calories
With her father knocking at the door	1218 Calories
With your wife knocking at the door	3521 Calories]

Although I'll have to say that if you're going to have sex with the main goal of burning calories, you are asking for trouble my friend.


*For the dense few out there, any caloric estimation is purely speculative for the purpose of getting a few laughs I'm sure. Don't go including infidelity in your daily calorie calculations please.


[chart taken from http://lewismoten.blogspot.com]

I overhear groups of guys toss around the phrase "Dude. Handle your woman!" all too often, and usually I'm left thinking to myself, "What on Earth does that even mean?"

Well I had to do some heavy duty research and managed to come up with a rough list of interpretations to that age-old frat-boyish remark:

10 things "Handle Your Woman!" could be mean:
1. "Shut her up!"
2. "Keep her in line!"
3. "Smack a b**ch!"
4. "She's being a b**ch!"
5. "She should be cooking and cleaning"
6. "Be a man!"
7. "You are a p**sy"
8. "Put her in her place!"
9. "I'm secretly wishing she'd handle me."
10. "We're just trying to mess with you but have no idea what that phrase means ourselves."

Now I won't get into the intricate details of whether bisexuality is just a phase, an endpoint, an excuse to get double the sex of a homo or hetero, etc. That's for others to discuss and debate. I'm just going to say that I think, yes, one CAN make a relationship work with a bisexual. In my opinion though, it will be much harder than making a relationship work with someone who's interested in just one sex.

Why?

Because a bisexual will be checking out twice as many people as someone straight/homo: boys AND girls will be getting his/her attention.

Not to mention you have to mentally/emotionally prepare yourself to deal with potential cultural/social judgementalism.

BUT. If the bisexual boyfriend/girlfriend is truly loyal only to you, then I don't see why the relationship can't work out. Straight men check out girls and can be loyal. Straight women check out men and can be loyal. There will be twice the temptation, but yes, bisexuals can check out both men and woman and be just as loyal. And if that's true, and both people involved are emotionally mature enough to handle the situation, then it's anyone's game. Just prepare yourself a bit before diving into one.

*Discussion sparked by http://www.collegecandy.com/sex/14201
[image taken from http://glbtworld.googlepages.com/]

Why is it that you always see couples on TV where the girl is hotter/fitter than the guy, but rarely see any where it's the other way around? King of Queens, George Lopez, Simpsons, Family Guy just to name a few. I mean come on, how did Peter EVER get with a girl like Lois?

Is it because fat guys are funny, but fat girls aren't? And that a fat couple all together would equal no ratings? Or is it because a hot guy would never realistically settle for a fat girl, while hot girls can definitely look beyond the superficial and dig deep enough (sometimes really deep) to find that special guy? Oh oh! maybe The Simpsons just paved the way with their brilliant formula of Stupid Fat Guy + Domestic Slim Wife = good old TV sitcom comedy?

As for the answer, I have no idea. But it'll probably be a combination of everything I've listed above and then some. Either way, I still find the whole setup is pretty ridiculous (and admittedly, yes: very hilarious.)

[image taken from http://animatedtv.about.com]

Now I'm not saying that if you avoid all of these these points that your date will be a huge success, but I CAN guarantee that your prospects at pursuing anything further will be curtailed if you go ahead and pull any of these bonehead moves:

On a first date, DON'T:

1. Take a call or a text during the date. It shows that he/she obviously isn't your top priority.
Possible Exceptions: Important callers? if possible, answer quickly, ask if you can call them back later, and apologize for the interruption.

2. Check out other people during the date. Did I even have to tell you that?

3. Talk about controversial topics (politics, money, religion are the big 3 that come to mind). You want to DATE them. Not DEBATE them.

4. Air out all your old laundry. Don't freak 'em out with dramatic childhood traumas. You can save that for after he/she judges that you're not a complete creeper. (And even then, give it to them in small doses please.)

(For the Guys)
5. Try something drastically new. Now I say drastically because I don't mean "I shouldn't try out that new Thai place down the street?" No. by all means go for it. But I do mean DON'T do something so completely out of your comfort zone that you could look like a nervous wreck (a definite turn-off), or could potentially embarrass yourself (not the cute kind of embarrass by the way.) Instead, take your date somewhere to do something they've never done before, but that you feel quite confident. That way you can ensure that you're in the best position to impress.


There are so many potential blunders out there for girls AND guys alike, that the Dating Don'ts will certainly come again. Stay tuned!

[image taken from http://awkwardfirstdates.com]

This JUST IN:

"Researchers have found that the bigger the group of potential mates to choose from the more likely individuals are to make a decision based on looks and sex appeal alone.

This is because their mind blanks at the choice and they revert to basic instincts, scientists believe."

Basically, don't speed date if you're looking for long-term. On the other hand, DO speed date if you want a hot short-term fling--it's going to end up that way anyways. But then again, you knew that going into it didn't you?

Oh, and I guess for all those guys that have been told "not if you were the last man on Earth!" the girls might be lying and not even realizing it. They'd definitely lax up their criteria if there was just ONE guy left.


But hey! If that doesn't work they can always even the playing field a little by charming her with laughter.

[image taken from provospeeddating.com]

Some people really...REALLY..aren't meant for relationships (like this guy) but at least they are aware of it:

"...prob was the way i was brought up and the shit i've witnessed through my teen years, i've heard things about alot of shady people cheating on each other, like my older brother tells me, he knows chicks with boyfriends and husbands that he done ran through, i just look with a surprised look on my face, everybody has some one in their family that has a S/O but does their thing on the side without letting that S/O know whats the deal. i can't see me being with a chick and she's out ****g with some other nigga, i might catch a case and get locked up, i know i will, there aint a doubt in my mind."

"mean relationships are cool for some, im not knocking it, but how do you really know your partner aint knocking somebody else's socks off, you always talk about them and how perfect they are, but you don't know they are running up in someone else, maybe i have trust issues, i dont know..."

So instead of trying, he's just going to sleep around and take the easy way out. Can someone say... "illegitimate children"?


Sadly though, this person is representative of a much larger group of people who awkwardly, seem to hang around the "For the Grown and sexy" section of the forum.



[image taken from http://mrsgrapevine.com]

(Sorry for being MIA these couple of days: been way too caught up in the general election)

Sidenote: "woo! Obama!"

*Ahem* moving on now:



Today's topic deals with wearing jewelery from an ex. Usually it's fine right? I mean it's a nice piece of bling that you shouldn't just throw away...that'd be a waste!

Ok, granted--keep it. BUT don't wear it around the new boyfriend.


Other gifts are alright, but jewelry are special tokens that carry a lot of meaning--and wearing them in a brand spakin new relationship is just bringing some bad mojo into the scene whether your new man knows it or not.

For girls that consciously realize they're still wearing the stuff and still do it? I just have to say either A. You're way too superficial and can't get over the jewlery(*cough* GOLD DIGGER *cough*), or B. you can't get over your ex.

Either way, get real.

Hi Everyone!

I Just wanted to say Happy Halloween! Hope you girls get to dress up as scandalously as your hearts desire, and hope that the guys have a great time gawking!

Be safe and have fun!

Ladies and Gentlemen, I welcome you to...the Sex Map (see above). I found this little oddity when stumbling around on the Net yesterday. What is it exactly? Someone who had a lot of time on their hands basically put together a geographical representation of the many "fixations..." people have. Some people will be looking at this and saying "OMG WHAT IS THAT? *googles it* OMG PEOPLE DO THIS??" and some will be saying "yup. sounds about right."
Either way, check it out--broaden your knowledge base and learn some new things. Chances are one of your particular fancies are charted (don't lie - we all have some).


Just goes to show that ridiculove can lead to some equally ridiculous bedroom antics.




P.S. - As for people residing north of "The Impassable Reaches," I just have to say...

Dude that's gross.

When the Halloween industry goes TOO FAR.:

I hope to God I don't see any couples wearing THIS GETUP come this Friday.
(Don't click if you're one of those "I want to keep my life rated-PG thank you ladeeda" people though. Boo on you.)


Whatever happened to good old fashioned "D*ck in a box"?

Looking at the "Family & Relationships" section of answers.yahoo.com, you're going to come across tons of "Do you think she's pretty?" "Do you think he's hot?" "Do you think she's good looking?" and I do not know why these people bother asking questions like that.

Besides the obvious point that for the most part, NO, these people are NOT attractive (if they were, they probably wouldn't be asking) why should they CARE what other people think anyways? Does our opinion influence whether they crush on a particular girl or guy? And of all people to ask, you ask an anonymous internet community. Why not ask your friends first?

You're probably liking these people for all the wrong reasons, and there are some serious issues you need to deal with before you really get into a relationship. Good luck.

This just goes to show that just because you and your significant other "got things down," doesn't meant that outside forces can't come in and f* things up. 

Yup! You heard it! Is your girlfriend poor? Dump her! At least that's what #6 on the Askmen.com "Top 10 signs you're too good for her"says.

"No. 6 She can't pay for anything

When it comes time to pick up the check for a dinner, a movie or just about anything else the two of you are undertaking she is nowhere to be found. There are two types of women for whom this is a problem: The first is just oblivious to the fact that she should actually pitch into the relationship. The second is just without the ability and just doesn't seem to have any income. Life's too short to waste time on either of them."

Before you dump her for option 1 (she's a gold digger), make sure you leave some hints, and if anything, COMMUNICATE. If she's still like "pay for me," drop her.

For option 2 (she can't afford to pay), then COMPROMISE--stay home and cook for a date, or just rent a movie. Some of the best dates can be free or low-cost dates.

Either way, way to go Askmen.com--I hope your other tips aren't as A-hole-ish.

[image via askmen.com]

Love is...Messed up. LOL.

For the guys out there:
1. You can interlace your fingers,
2. You can have her place her palm on yours, and grasp it,
3. You can cross hang your pinkies off each other...


But you DON'T go around holding her wrist. OK?! That is just plain AWKWARD. Looks like you wanted a leash but you couldn't get one or something, or that you found yourself a new she-slave. I mean wow. Choose from options 1-3. Any one of them is fine. Just stop it now.

And for girls being led around by the wrist. Wth? Speak up.

Ok so last night I'm coming home from the gym, and I see this guy totally chewing this girl out on the street yelling "...THIS IS A RELATIONSHIP OK?! YOU NEED TO GET THE F*** OUT!" and other incomprehensibles. Whatever they're yelling about is their own business, but it doesn't seem very settling that the girl was huddled up in a corner just kind of taking it and the guy was dressed up like some ghetto hood. Whatever the case, it's not my business. It IS my business however, that he doesn't have the decency to take his "wife-beater" tendencies soemwhere private. One for the civic deceny (which I'm assuming he lacks) of not disturbing the peace, but more importantly, for two, for having the common decency and respect (which again, I'm assuming he also lacks) that dictates you don't just yell at your girlfriend (or ho who knows), in public like that. Come on now.

It's a long post for the first one on this site, but it's a very well important one:




I am here to say that after much thought and careful observation, I've come to the conclusion that guys and girls just CAN'T be best friends--well...indefinitely anyways (no worries you can still be "just friends" but there are still dangers there we'll discuss some other time). As a temporary setup, it's great: you have someone whom you trust, someone to harmlessly flirt around with, and someone to just go out with. However, it's doomed to fail eventually (and who knows this "eventually" term might be like 30 years after they met). The trigger? Either one of two things: either the two will somehow be unable to ignore the sexual tension that's been building and have a go at a hopefully successful relationship, or one of the two will find a successful relationship with a third person. The first option is up in the air, since whether or not they make it is all up to them (and hopefully they don't totally screw it up), and since the "best friends" status has been terminated anyways (and no B.S. saying "oh but the best relationships are when the two people are still like best friends!" Too bad. The boyfriend-girlfriend dynamic benefits from the pre-existing friendship, but takes precedence over it).
So let me explain the second option and why everything gets messed up when you introduce a third person (and this is assuming you want a successful relationship outside of the friendship. If not, great! You two can go ahead and date around with other people and enjoy a string of unhealthy, messy relationships and breakups with the two of you comforting each other and picking up each others' pieces). It's simply the fact that this newcomer wouldn't be very happy sharing you with someone of the same sex. I mean no guy is completely 100% ok with his girlfriend hanging out with some other guy, who has known her longer, and better and the same goes for a girlfriend not wanting her man hanging out with some girl so much. They will definitely try to play it off that in fact they secure enough to share, but come on, really? There will always be some basal level of insecurity nawing at them from the inside which will be bad for the relationship anyways. I mean you definitely can try to hang on to your best-friendness and the new relationship, but you are going to have to give some up of either one or the other: you can't have your cake and eat it too. Either you spend less time with your bestie and more time with the significant other, or not (I'll warn you that the second option forebodes a breakup though). It all comes down to the notion that a relationship takes time, trust, "clicking with each other" and a whole lot of work. If you're doing all that with someone else like your best friend, you're going to lose your new girlfriend/boyfriend, and I should refer you to Option 1 since it seems like you're on your way there anyways.
The basic reason me saying so outright that you can't be best friends with someone of the opposite sex for long is just a pre-emptive way of preventing some huge problem down the road for your relationships. I am all for option 1 and the best friends getting with each other (most of the times I feel like they do make the best pair, and it tears me up when I see the second option of them splitting up for new relationships is chosen. What if your best friend isn't really attractive to you? Well sorry about that, guess you're probably on your way to option 2. Either that or you get a hotter best friend.


Some exceptions and notes:
1. For those "I have a gay best friend" setups, I can only say that it CAN work out and they CAN have other relationships, but the only danger there is that the two HAVE to manage their time very well and not spend too much time with each other that the relationships are barely hanging on, but not spend too little time with each other that their friendship is in danger (although if they were best friends, they could probably spare some time away and come back from a time of growing their new relationships just as strong)
2. For those "I have a crush on my best friend but he/she has no idea/interest." You are screwed. You want option 1 but you're probably gonna get option 2. Either way you are going to be unhappy unless you A) stop crushing (and actually make peace with yourself) or B) upgrade yourself(don't change your personality or anything, but girls get a new haircut and guys get a new pair of jeans or something) and get him/her to see you in some new light.
3. If you try Option 1, get together and it doesn't work out, depending on how the breakup went down, you two can still best friends, but again, until one of you goes for Option 2 down the line. If one of you has trouble moving on? Well that's another post for another day.


Life's unfair, and life is tough. Don't put yourself in positions where you voluntarily make it even crappier than it is.

Fun times ahead.